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06-20-2010, 02:45 AM
[][]Babies
When a baby is distressed, it's sometimes hard to figure out what's wrong. If you try all the obvious things like feeding and changing, or rocking the baby in your arms, and nothing seems to work, think of EFT.
First use it on yourself, if you're at your w[/B][/FONT][/SIZE]its end: "Even though I don't know what my baby needs, I fully and deeply accept myself." or "Even though I'm feeling very frustrated that my baby won't stop crying....."
You can also try EFT directly for the baby. Tapping itself might be a bit rough for a young baby, so try Surrogate Tapping or Touch and Breath instead.
If your baby is sick and you have a reasonable idea what they're feeling, the words are easier to think of "Even though, I (baby's name) have a sore foot, I'm a good baby and Mummy loves me" otherwise use something more general "Even though, I (baby's name) am feeling distressed, I'm ....". Either hold the baby and tap on yourself, or touch and hold each tapping point on the baby while you breathe in and out.
Toddlers
As your child gets older, you can tap directly on him or her, and make it into a game. Use age appropriate language for your self acceptance phrase (eg. I'm a good girl), or just tap repeatedly through the points with no setup, while he tells you the story of what happened, or she explains what she's feeling. (Complain and Tap)
School age
Once a child spends part of the time at school or kindergarten, there will be things that happened during the day that you don't know about. A helpful after school or bedtime routine is for your child to tell you all about their day while you tap through the points. Even tapping during good stories is helpful, as there can be hidden downsides that you're clearing away. "I got 10/10 in the maths test" (the unspoken and maybe unaware thought is "My friend only got 2 and might get mad at me.")
To read more about how to apply this technique, visit Gary Craig's website
As your child gets older, he or she will want to start tapping for themselves (all going well!) or may not want to tap at all. Guide them with appropraite language - "I'm a cool dude" might be a more comfortable self acceptance phrase - and give them space to decide for themselves when to tap.
You may also have children who are already older that you want to teach to tap. Here's an excellent article by Ann Adams who works with disturbed children.
Teenagers
These years are when children become themselves, and start to rebel no matter how good your relationship has been. But if they're comfortable with using EFT, it's an option that is always there for them. This is a time when you may need to use EFT a lot yourself, and hope that they remember EFT when it would be helpful.]
When a baby is distressed, it's sometimes hard to figure out what's wrong. If you try all the obvious things like feeding and changing, or rocking the baby in your arms, and nothing seems to work, think of EFT.
First use it on yourself, if you're at your w[/B][/FONT][/SIZE]its end: "Even though I don't know what my baby needs, I fully and deeply accept myself." or "Even though I'm feeling very frustrated that my baby won't stop crying....."
You can also try EFT directly for the baby. Tapping itself might be a bit rough for a young baby, so try Surrogate Tapping or Touch and Breath instead.
If your baby is sick and you have a reasonable idea what they're feeling, the words are easier to think of "Even though, I (baby's name) have a sore foot, I'm a good baby and Mummy loves me" otherwise use something more general "Even though, I (baby's name) am feeling distressed, I'm ....". Either hold the baby and tap on yourself, or touch and hold each tapping point on the baby while you breathe in and out.
Toddlers
As your child gets older, you can tap directly on him or her, and make it into a game. Use age appropriate language for your self acceptance phrase (eg. I'm a good girl), or just tap repeatedly through the points with no setup, while he tells you the story of what happened, or she explains what she's feeling. (Complain and Tap)
School age
Once a child spends part of the time at school or kindergarten, there will be things that happened during the day that you don't know about. A helpful after school or bedtime routine is for your child to tell you all about their day while you tap through the points. Even tapping during good stories is helpful, as there can be hidden downsides that you're clearing away. "I got 10/10 in the maths test" (the unspoken and maybe unaware thought is "My friend only got 2 and might get mad at me.")
To read more about how to apply this technique, visit Gary Craig's website
As your child gets older, he or she will want to start tapping for themselves (all going well!) or may not want to tap at all. Guide them with appropraite language - "I'm a cool dude" might be a more comfortable self acceptance phrase - and give them space to decide for themselves when to tap.
You may also have children who are already older that you want to teach to tap. Here's an excellent article by Ann Adams who works with disturbed children.
Teenagers
These years are when children become themselves, and start to rebel no matter how good your relationship has been. But if they're comfortable with using EFT, it's an option that is always there for them. This is a time when you may need to use EFT a lot yourself, and hope that they remember EFT when it would be helpful.]